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5 Eternal Crown Rewards and What They Mean to You NOW

Francy married an Army Lieutenant. His assignments created numerous moves in the states and abroad, let alone all the deployments thrown in. It was hard leaving behind friends and family and starting over every couple years.

Early in their marriage, Francy resented some of these assignments and took it out on her husband, blaming him until she realized that soldiering is all he ever wanted to do in life. She was going to have to alter her perspective to be able to support him better.

Finally, Francy decided that if her husband was to be able to do what he was called and trained to do, she had to learn that his mission had to become her own. She believed in what he was doing, and she knew the only way he would ever be happy was for her to become adaptable.

Not being a natural extrovert, she learned to go out right away, make new friends and get involved in the community. She settled in faster and experienced a whole new state and/or country, which became an exciting adventure—especially when running marathons in each state became a new goal.

Francy became an expert in running marathons and created her own training system for leading the wives of Army personnel to run also. They all had the same challenges in making so many moves, and it brought them together.

Before long Francy had a whole wall of medals, so she decided it was time to train her parents! They could not run after 40 years of marriage and weight gain, so she helped them to walk a half marathon – the 13.1 miles – without stopping.

A race was coming to her city––the perfect opportunity to get her parents ‘in shape.’  Her parents complied and were glad to be part of their daughter’s world. They worked hard, but still didn’t see how they could finish the race with everyone else unless they ran it. So, Fran got permission for them to start earlier in the morning.

It worked, and they finished the race approximately the same time as all the rest finished the whole marathon. Of course, only one person received first prize in each age group, but they received a medal when they crossed the finish line.



Much like a marathon, at the end of our race on earth, believers in Jesus Christ will receive eternal crown rewards when they make their Creator’s mission their own.

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“For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, that each one may receive the things done in the body, according to what he has done, whether good or bad” (2 Corinthians 5:10).

We must be clear on one point. Scripture does not say that a person is saved, or obtains eternal salvation because of his works, or what he does while in the body; it does say our works matter.

Ephesians 2:8-10 will always be our faith foundation: “For by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves, it is the gift of God, not of works, lest anyone should boast. For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus FOR good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them.”

As I live, says the LORD,
Every knee shall bow to Me,
And every tongue shall confess to God. Romans 14:11

In other words, we will all have to “give an account of ourselves to God” (Romans 14:12)––at one of two judgments.

[To understand more of what it means to be a Christian believer in Jesus Christ, click on these links to learn about HEART change and the what the BLOOD of Jesus Christ did for you.]


There will be two judgments: one for believers (the *Bema) and one for non-believers in Jesus Christ (the Great White Throne Judgment).


1 Corinthians 3:11-15 tells believers that their works can be compared to gold, silver, precious stones, or wood, hay and straw. Each one’s work will be revealed by fire that tests each one’s work of what sort it is.

“If anyone’s work which he has built on it [the foundation of Jesus Christ] endures, he will receive a reward. If anyone’s work is burned, he will suffer loss, but he himself will be saved, yet so as through fire” (1 Corinthians 3:14-15).


Revelation 20:11-15 reveals what will happen at the Great White Throne Judgment for unbelievers. All the dead, small and great, from the sea, death and hell will be judged, “and books were opened. And another book was opened which is the Book of Life. And the dead were judged according to their works, by the things which were written in the books . . . And anyone not found written in the Book of Life was cast into the lake of fire.”

What are the books that were opened that were compared to the Book of Life? Read Psalm 139:

“Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed. And in Your book they all were written, the days fashioned for me, when as yet there were none of them” (Psalm 139:16).

All the days ordained for you were written in your book the moment you were conceived in your mother’s womb. This is God’s plan for your life, your destiny and your days numbered.

Everything about your life is recorded in your book, especially if you have chosen to believe in Jesus Christ and follow Him and have allowed Him to fulfill His plans for your life.

Believer’s crown rewards are determined from this book at the Bema Judgment. Believers take no part in the Great White Throne Judgment at the very end of time.


5 ETERNAL CROWN REWARDS: WILL YOU RECEIVE ANY OR SUFFER LOSS? Much like a marathon, at the end of our race on earth, believers in Jesus Christ will receive eternal-crown rewards when they make their Creator’s mission their own. “For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, that each one may receive the things done in the body, according to what he has done, whether good or bad” (2 Corinthians 5:10). Will you receive any rewards, or suffer loss? #crownrewards, #judgementday, #godwhoareyou, #whoamiThey are summarized below.

[I will write about each one of the following in the next five posts, so if you are reading this before completion, they will not be linked; otherwise, they are linked to more detail.]

1. Incorruptible Crown/Victor’s Crown – “Everyone who competes for the prize is temperate in all things. Now they do it to obtain a perishable crown, but we for an imperishable crown” (1 Corinthians 9:25).

2. Crown of Life – “Be faithful until death, and I will give you the crown of life” (Revelation 2:10).

3. Crown of Glory – “Shepherd the flock of God which is among you, serving as overseers, not by compulsion but willingly, not for dishonest gain but eagerly; nor as being lords over those entrusted to you, but being examples to the flock; and when the Chief Shepherd appears, you will receive the crown of glory that does not fade away” (1 Peter 5:2-4).

4. Crown of Righteousness – “There is laid up for me the crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous judge, will give to me on that Day, and not to me only but also to all who have loved His appearing” (2 Timothy 4:8).

5. Crown of Rejoicing – “For what is our hope, or joy, or crown of rejoicing? Is it not even you [souls won] in the presence of our Lord Jesus Christ at His coming? For you are our glory and joy” (1Thessalonians 2:15).

(Other descriptive names given these crown rewards: 1. Victor’s Crown 2. Martyr’s Crown 3. Elder’s or Shepherd’s Crown 4. For Those Who Love His Appearing  5. Soul Winner’s Crown)

Notice that the Apostle Paul summarized the imperishable crown (#1), also called victor’s crown, in 1 Corinthians 9; still yet, all the crowns are also victor crowns for those who overcome. My next post will address the Victor’s Crown in detail as to how I can know I will receive it; what am I to do?

The following Scripture passage from 1 Corinthians 9:24-27 (NKJV) is merely an introduction to the incorruptible victor crowns:

• 24 Do you not know that those who run in a race all run, but one receives the prize? Run in such a way that you may obtain it.
• 25 And everyone who competes for the prize is temperate in all things. Now they do it to obtain a perishable crown, but we for an imperishable crown.
• 26 Therefore I run thus: not with uncertainty. Thus I fight: not as one who beats the air.
• 27 But I discipline my body and bring it into subjection, lest, when I have preached to others, I myself should become disqualified.

I RUN to receive crown rewards

Even though we may not come out first, we must run or walk very fast as though we will be first. Those of us who started out life earlier than most, will cross the finish line at the same time when the body of Christ is caught up together to meet the Lord in the air (1 Thessalonians 4:17).

For a visual of what this will look like, you may go HERE to listen to or read about the open vision the Lord gave me of how the body of Christ RAN so fast that it overtook gravity.

I FIGHT to receive crown rewards

We must fight because we have an adversary (the devil). He does everything he can to keep us from fulfilling our destiny and what is written by our Creator in our own personal book. We must not allow him to cheat us of our reward (Colossians 3:18), or lose it by deception (2 John, vs. 8).

If we do allow this to happen, we stand the chance of losing our crown reward if we continue to let the enemy “take our crown” (Rev. 3:11). The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill and to destroy. Jesus has come to give us life and life abundantly (See John 10:10).

We must educate ourselves on how to use our spiritual word weapon, so we don’t just beat the air. This is what my next post will address in The Victor’s Crown.

I DISCIPLINE my body into subjection so I’m able to receive crown rewards

I think we all know how hard discipline is. It takes a conscious decision to prepare for a marathon; even a half marathon of 13.1 miles. Likewise, to be a disciple of Jesus Christ requires discipline and a quality decision.

It’s not by chance that ‘disciple’ is the root of ‘discipline.’ And how we live our life on this earth affects everyone we know and possibly many we may never know. Will you receive a crown reward?

It’s time to RUN!

And behold, I am coming quickly, and My reward is with Me, to give to everyone according to his work (Revelation 22:12).


*Bema is the transliteration of the Greek word used in the New Testament used to distinguish the Great White Throne Judgment of nonbelievers from the judgment seat of Christ for believers. A bema was a raised platform in the city square or at the coliseums where a dignitary would sit to hear civil matters or hand out rewards at competitive games (Tim LaHaye & Thomas Ice, Charting the End Times, Harvest House Publishers, p. 122.)

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The 5 Stages in Relationship to God Jesus Christ for New Believers Who Want to Grow

I sidled up to the crowded counter where my husband was getting ready to pay for gasoline and his drink at the convenience store. I placed my coffee next to his––as I always do. To my surprise, he said, “What are you doing?”

When we got into the car, I asked him, “What was that all about back there? Why did you ask me what I was doing?”

“It was crowded, and I could hardly get my money out of my wallet. You were too close to me.”

Having learned to pick my battles, I let it drop, but my feelers were hurt and as much as I fought taking an offense, I did, until I went for a walk that evening and had a full-out pity party. I complained to the Lord and let it all out.

As I rounded the corner close to the house, I heard the still, small voice of the Lord say you can’t get too close to me.

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These words stopped me in my tracks, as I knew they were also the Lord’s loving correction to me. I needed to seek His face more than I had been doing. One day of missing to read my Bible had led to another, and now, I had let my spiritual armor down and felt far from God.

When I sought the Lord, I was reminded of what I had recently heard a preacher say, “There are five levels, or stages in the Christian’s life: believer, disciple, bondservant, friend and son/daughter.” That was it, no explanation of these.
My first reaction was to think there was another level beyond son/daughter.  Finally, as I determined to research what the Lord had to say about this, I realized I was wrong, and what He showed me was a pleasant surprise.

Please follow along with me as we discern these five progressive levels of growth in relationship to God Jesus Christ: a relationship not religion. You may feel like I did, far from God, or you may be a new believer who, like me years ago, did not know what to do with what they got when they asked Jesus into their heart.

You may be a stressed-out mom or dad, or single person feeling unloved and unappreciated, rejected or neglected. You long for someone who would just have your best interests at heart. If so, you must keep reading.

The still, small voice of the Lord is just waiting to speak to you now and give you encouragement and new direction.

BELIEVER: The First Progressive Level in Relationship to God Jesus Christ

The Bible Believer believes these four things:

• Jesus was sent from God and is His Son (John 3:16);
• He was born of a virgin (Luke 1:27,31)
• He died on the cross as the lamb of God; thus, paying the price for sin, for without the shedding of blood there is no remission of sin (Hebrews 9:22);
• He was buried and rose again, “if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the dead, you will be saved” (Romans 10:9).

Jesus himself gives us a definition of what a true believer is when He prays for His disciples right before He is crucified. “I have given to them the words which You have given Me; and they have received them and have known surely that I came forth from You; and they have believed that You sent Me” (John 17:8).

[I will be giving you a few links in this post as examples of the 5 stages in relationship to God Jesus Christ. These stories are from my free eCourse on this Web site to my book GOD Who Are You? AND Who Am I? Knowing and Experiencing God by His Hebrew Names. These are merely 15-minute segments from the whole book and course.]

HERE Is a link to MY STORY – HOW EL ROI FOUND ME. Just click on it for a pdf file of my story. Mothers and grandmothers have used this simple model to lead their children or grandchildren to the Lord.

DISCIPLE: The Second Progressive Level in Relationship to God Jesus Christ

The disciple encompasses three D’s: Disciple, Discipline and Decision

Disciple: Webster’s dictionary’s very first definition of disciple uses the synonym of ‘follower’ to explain that this disciple is “a follower of Jesus Christ, and one who accepts and assists in spreading the doctrines of another.”
Discipline: “to train or develop by instruction and exercise in self-control” (Webster’s). To be a disciplined disciple, the believer must make a:
Decision: Jesus said to His disciples, “Follow Me, and I will make you fishers of men.” And what did they do? They immediately left their fishing nets and followed Him. James and John were in the boat with their father mending their nets. When Jesus called them, they immediately left the boat and their father, and followed Him (Matthew 4:22).

It was this very account of Jesus calling His disciples that got my husband’s and my attention when we made the conscious, quality decision to follow Him. Jesus knew his twelve disciples awhile before he called them by name to follow Him.

Jesus is still walking along the seashore calling out believers by name to make Him Number One, LORD of all. He wants followers who are quality-decision making, disciplined disciples.

Click this link for my story of how I learned the hard lesson of what a true disciple meant––with answered prayers>>HOW I LEARNED TO RECEIVE BY FAITH

Click here for our story of how my husband and I learned what it meant to follow our Shepherd, Jesus, and made that quality decision together>>OUR STORY OF LEARNING HOW TO TRUST GOD’S GUIDANCE 

5 Stages in Relationship to God Jesus Christ for New Believers Who Want to Grow as a Christian
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BONDSERVANT: The Third Progressive Level in Relationship to God Jesus Christ

Paul, Timothy, James, Peter and Jude all referred to themselves as bondservants of Jesus Christ in the New Testament. This period of servanthood is marked by trials, suffering and circumstances that cannot be understood at the time.

Jesus says that the servant does not know what his master is doing (John 15:15). Do you find this as interesting as I do? During a test, the Teacher is absent.

The bondservant stage is characterized by three things:

Voluntary Service:

The word servants comes from the Greek word doulos, [Strong’s 1401]: from deo, means ‘to bind,’ The word denotes one in bondage to, or subject to another, and is usually translated, ‘slave’ or ‘servant.’ Often the service involved is voluntary, in which a person willingly offers obedience and devotion and loyalty to another, subordinating his will to him.

No longer a men-pleaser:

The disciple finally comes to realize that he/she cannot follow Jesus and worry about what other people think of them, “not with eyeservice, as men-pleasers, but as bondservants of Christ, doing the will of God from the heart” (Ephesians 6:6).

Humble selflessness and learned obedience:

“Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus, who being in the form of God, did not consider it robbery to be equal with God, but made Himself of no reputation, taking the form of a bondservant, and coming in the likeness of men, and being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself, and became obedient to the point of death, even the death of the cross” (Philippians 2:5-8). Jesus, “though He was a Son, yet He learned obedience by the things which He suffered” (Hebrews 5:8).

If Jesus had to suffer to learn obedience, how do we think we can get by with less? He died literally and says we must take up His cross to follow Him. That comes only by commanding SELF to die daily – knowing that “I have been crucified with Christ” (Galatians 2:20).  Self-centeredness is the root of all evil. Every overcomer has learned this lesson.

Every overcomer in the Bible had a period of suffering in their life before they came out on top. Only a few examples are: Joseph who spent time in prison before being exalted to overseer over all the land of Egypt; David was anointed king of Israel, yet ran and hid from Saul for many years before he was able to take the throne. Job lost his health and children, everything he had, except his wife before God restored him double.

Job said, “Though He slay me, yet will I trust Him” (Job 13: 15-16).

God’s promise to the bondservant: “You prisoners of hope, even today I declare that I will restore double to you” (Zechariah 9:12).

Here is the account of when our family learned the bondservant’s lesson. We were without a job for one year in God’s School of Faith that brought miracles>>OUR STORY OF CROSSING THE DRY RIVER BED OF THE JORDAN

FRIEND: The Fourth Progressive Level in Relationship to God Jesus Christ

How would you like to be called a “friend of God?” What an honor for someone to call you that. James 2:23 tells us that, “Abraham believed God, and it was accounted to him for righteousness. And he was called the friend of God.”

As Jesus was preparing his disciples for His departure at the end of their training period, He said to them,

“No longer do I call you servants, for a servant does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all things that I heard from My Father I have made known to you. You did not choose Me, but I chose you and appointed you that you should go and bear fruit, and that your fruit should remain, that whatever you ask the Father in My name, He may give you. These things I command you that you love one another” (John 15: 15-17).

A friend of God is marked by two things:

Love Fruit:

Jesus commanded that, because you are my friend, “Love One Another!” Love is the first fruit of the Spirit detailed in Galatians 5:22, “the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.” When we learn to love, the rest will follow; without the others, there is no love; fruit is singular as one bunch of grapes.

And because we love, we will pray for others like Abraham did.

Intercession for others with the ability to change God’s mind:

Genesis 18 tells the story of Abraham’s intercession for the city of Sodom. As God was about to rain down fire and brimstone upon the evil city of sin, He said to Himself, shall I hide from Abraham what I am doing?

When Abraham learned of God’s plan to destroy Sodom, he stood before the Lord and said, “Indeed now, I who am but dust and ashes have taken it upon myself to speak to the Lord: “Suppose there were five less than the fifty righteous; would You destroy all of the city for lack of five?”

The LORD said, “If I find there forty-five, I will not destroy it.”

Abraham persisted until he influenced the LORD down to 10 people. The only righteous people found in the city were Abraham’s nephew Lot and family. Angels took them by the hand and led them out before fire rained down.

“Come, let us reason together,” says the LORD . . . “If you are willing and obedient, You shall eat the good of the land; But if you refuse and rebel, You shall be devoured by the sword”; For the mouth of the LORD has spoken” (Isaiah 1:18-20).

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SON/DAUGHTER: The Fifth Level of Progression in Relationship with Jesus

As I contemplated this fifth and last stage of relationship—Son/Daughter– my first thoughts were, no, there is a sixth level–the body of Christ as His bride–the Bride of Christ. Slowly, the Lord directed my thoughts to Jesus’ baptism by John and proved me wrong.

The heavens were opened, and Jesus saw the Spirit of God descending like a dove and alighting upon Him, and suddenly a voice came from heaven saying,

“This is my beloved Son, in whom I am well pleased” (Matthew 3: 17)

This must be the highest compliment from the Father possible!

I said to the Lord, “I wish I could hear You say to me that I am your daughter.”

My thoughts immediately ran to the book of Ruth, and I found chapter 3 where Boaz the family redeemer, a foreshadowing of Jesus Christ our Redeemer, spoke to Ruth.

Ruth and her mother-in-law Naomi both had come through a time of great suffering in the land of Moab (and their false gods) where both their husbands had died. They were now back in Bethlehem after the famine where Naomi’s house and land remained.

Ruth had been gleaning grain from the fields of Boaz to help care for her mother-in-law. Knowing that Boaz was a close relative who could redeem their family name, Naomi prompted Ruth to go to the  threshing floor at the midnight hour. Naomi told her, “uncover his feet, lie down, and he will tell you what you should do.”

“Now it happened at midnight that the man was startled and turned himself, and there, a woman was lying at his feet. And he said, “Who are you?” So she answered, “I am Ruth, your maidservant. Take your maidservant under your wing, for you are a close relative.”

Then he said, “Blessed are you of the LORD, my daughter! . . . And now, my daughter, do not fear. I will do for you all that you request . . . .” (Ruth 3:10-11).

Ruth was referred to as ‘Ruth the Moabitess’ five times in the book of the Bible named after her, but when she responded to Boaz/Jesus who asked her who she was, she said, “I am Ruth, your maidservant (bondservant).” But, Boaz/Jesus called her His daughter.

It’s like the song titled, “I am a child of God.” From the very foundations of the world, we were created to be a companion for the Son, Jesus Christ, and to live with Him forever as His bride. The question is, “Do we know who we are?” Is not the bride of the Bridegroom Jesus the daughter-in-love of The Father?

Boaz married Ruth and their son Obed, whose name means “He who worships,” became the father of Jesse, who was the father of King David. Twenty-eight generations after David, Joseph (of the lineage of David) married Mary, mother of Jesus—the promised Messiah.

Oh, and by the way, Ruth, who left her family back in Moab to follow Naomi’s people and their God in Bethlehem, Israel, had a name that means “friend of God—something worth seeing.”

Is not the bride of the Bridegroom, Jesus/Yeshua, the daughter-in-love of The Father?

“And it shall be in that day,” says the LORD, that you will call Me ‘My Husband,’ And no longer call Me ‘My Master,’ For I will take from her mouth the names of the Baals [idols and false gods], And they shall be remembered by their name no more” (Hosea 2:16-17)”

“You can’t get too close to me.”

MY TESTIMONY––from bondservant to daughter-in-love: YOU ARE MY VALENTINE, LOVE JESUS

All the above levels in relationship to Jesus Christ correspond to the upward spirals in the supernatural event the LORD gave me in 1994. Click here>>THE FORMING, STORMING, NORMING, & PERFORMING STAGES OF TEAMWORK. 

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Scripture references in this post are from the New King James Version of the Bible.

How I Am Learning the 7 Pillars of Wisdom Essential to Build Life

I’m still learning, but there are two things of which I’m convinced:

  • The 7 pillars of wisdom are like supporting beams in our house and have to do with personal relationships, or how we deal with our family or any community in which we are involved.
  • I know that not one of these 7 pillars can be missing from our life if we want to have peace, and lack of anxiety and turmoil in all the choices we make. In other words, they are essential for life and to be able to move forward and to claim the promise we’re given for a long, happy and productive life.

What are the 7 Pillars of Wisdom?

Have you ever heard of the 7 pillars of wisdom? And if you have, do you know what they are? I recently read this phrase as I was reading Proverbs, chapter 9, on the 9th day of one recent month.

Since there are 31 chapters in the book of Proverbs written by the wisest man in the world, King Solomon, reading one per day is what many Christians do. Until this day, I never gave this phrase a second thought. And, I wondered, what are those 7 pillars?

As I began to meditate on this chapter, the thought came to me that maybe this wise man would not mention them without telling us what they were. And, just maybe he did not number them like we would today. I was astounded at what I discovered. Also, I believe that without a recent encounter with a ‘scorner’ I would not have recognized these 7 pillars. Please learn from my mistake

The first verse says, “Wisdom has built her house; she has hewn out and set up her seven [perfect number of] pillars” (Amplified). Webster’s dictionary defines house as a “household; a family under the same roof; a religious community in residence.” Thus, that is why we are looking at relationships – present and future.

It’s in verses 6 through 12 where we find the nuggets of gold: insight and understanding; discernment; reprove not a scorner; look for the FAT; a reverent and worshipful fear of the Lord; promise of long life; and wisdom is for oneself.

How I Am Learning the 7 Pillars of Wisdom

Number 1 of the 7 Pillars of Wisdom: Insight and Understanding

Verse 6 says, “Forsake foolishness and live, and go in the way of understanding” (NKJV). The Amplified version includes the word ‘insight.’ Spiritual insight can come only from taking time to dig deep to get understanding from the Word of God.

One of my favorite Scriptures is Proverbs 4:7: “in all thy getting, get an understanding.” This is the verse that changed my life when my children were young. It alerted me to the fact that I had to put in effort with discipline to learn Wisdom, I had to seek God, and that I could learn from Him myself.

Verse 5 shows exactly how to get insight and understanding, “Come, eat of my bread and drink of the spiritual wine” – this is the Word of God. This is Jesus Himself who is the Word made flesh and blood. He calls to us to hear and listen to His voice and open the door. He promises, “I will come in to him and will eat with him, and he will eat with Me” (Revelation 3:20).

Number 2 of the 7 Pillars of Wisdom: Discernment

Verse 7: “He who rebukes a scorner heaps upon himself abuse, and he who reproves a wicked man gets for himself bruises.” Okay, here’s the problem. How do we know when to try to correct in love and when to withhold our tongue or texts? Namely, to have discernment.

The Bible tells us “if your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he hears you, you have gained your brother” (Matthew 18:15). Many have given the wisdom to learn from other’s mistakes, so that you don’t have to make all of them yourself. I hope you can learn from my lack of wisdom.

A fellow brother in community took offense with a situation which involved several of my friends. He immediately took to the internet to spout abusive words against them by name. I prayed about the situation a lot and felt led to write him a letter of encouragement with just a hint of correction with a Scripture from Isaiah the Lord showed me.

In Isaiah 65:2, God laments that He has “stretched out His hands all day long to a rebellious people, who walk in a way that is not good, according to their own thoughts [and opinions].” Did you catch that?

God equates REBELLION to a person’s own thoughts and opinions in contrast to hearing and heading HIS THOUGHTS AND OPINIONS!

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The Bible also says that rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft. I did not mention that in the letter, but maybe I should have; this person responded to my email just fine, but the behavior did not change.

I was extremely concerned about this situation and kept praying until the Lord gave me a dream. I saw a baby spit up a whole bunch. The Lord seems to say, “What do you do when this happens?”

“Well, Lord, I wipe it up and throw it away.”

“Exactly, and, remember this is my baby. Only I can make it grow. Just keep praying, and trust Me.”

Discernment of when to CONFRONT IN LOVE is not easy, but it’s getting easier  – because of the next pillar.

Number 3 of the 7 Pillars of Wisdom: Reprove Not a Scorner

The 7 pillars of wisdom are essential for life and to be able to move forward to claim the promise of God for a long, and productive life. Do you know what they are?

Here it is, just plain and simple:  DO NOT reprove the scorner, scoffer or mocker!! As plain as day, just don’t do it God says! I wish I’d learned this sooner.

Verse 8, “Reprove not a scorner, lest he hate you; reprove a wise man, and he will love you.” So, what is a scorner anyway? Webster’s for scorn: “to reject or dismiss as contemptible or unworthy; open dislike and disrespect or derision often mixed with indignation.”

Discernment calls for recognizing this in an individual and to just stay away. Let it go! “But avoid foolish and ignorant disputes, knowing that they generate strife” (2 Timothy 2:23).

“A scoffer does not love one who corrects him, nor will he go to the wise” (Prov. 15:12). This person has never prayed, “Lord, change me,” nor, gone to the Word for insight and understanding himself.

On the other hand, “rebuke a wise man, and he will love you.” Thankfully, I’ve experienced this. The surprise response was, “Thank you.”

Number 4 of the 7 Pillars of Wisdom: Look for the FAT

Verse 9, “Give instruction to a wise man, and he will be yet wiser; Teach a righteous man, and he will increase in learning.” How do we discern the wise man or woman? Here is what I learned from my friend GRETCHEN’S STORY. Look for FAT people:

F – Faithful

A – Available

T – Teachable

As a Bible study leader, I’ve found it hard and easy to find faithful, available and teachable people. Hard in the sense that they are few. These are ones who have come to the end of themselves, and discovered they are powerless without The Rock to stand on. These are hurting people in crisis mode who are ready to put in the effort to become very wise.

Number 5 of the 7 Pillars of Wisdom: Have a reverent and worshipful fear of the Lord

Verse 10, “The reverent and worshipful fear of the Lord is the beginning of Wisdom, and the knowledge of the Holy One is understanding.” The Knowledge of the Holy One – it’s taken years of walking with the Lord to realize that His ways and His thoughts are so much higher than mine (Isaiah 55:9). He taught me that there are seasons that begin and end in my life.

Our city-wide women’s group lasted only seven years. These are the women you are reading about in GOD Who Are You? AND Who Am I? e-course on this site.  In year eight, the Lord no longer brought women to me who were ready and willing to share their testimony, and everyone I had to go to and ask, turned me down. What is going on here, Lord? I thought.

A wise woman said to me, “I’ve found there are seasons in our lives and that they change.”

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Shortly, my husband retired, and we moved from town to our next assignment. Many could not understand; we did not really understand, but it’s as the Word says, “Man’s steps are ordered by the Lord. How then can a man understand his way?” (Proverbs 20:24).

Number 6 of the 7 Pillars of Wisdom: Promise of Long Life

Verse 11, “For by me [Wisdom from God] your days shall be multiplied, and years of your life shall be increased.” This is straightforward. What a great God we serve who is always ready to reward those who diligently seek Him (Hebrews 11: 6). There is no end to His promises!

Number 7 of the 7 Pillars of Wisdom: Wisdom is for Oneself

Verse 12, “If you are wise, you are wise for yourself; if you scorn, you alone will bear it and pay the penalty.” Be wise for yourself. Here is the crux of it all:

We need wisdom to know our seasons. Daniel 2:21 makes it clear, “He changes the times and the seasons; He removes kings and sets up kings. He gives wisdom to the wise and knowledge to those who have understanding!”

We may not be able to understand our season, possibly that we are only moving from one to the next, and that the only way to get there is to remove our feet from one bank of the river to get to the other side. Our responsibility, though, is to know when it’s time to get on the offensive team to be ready for the next assignment from the Lord He has planned for us.

No one else can understand what God is doing in our life. Even then, most times it’s only when we get beyond the present circumstances that we can look back and understand those plans and purposes.

Even Jesus was hardly ever understood; how much more should we expect to be misunderstood? This is one of the hardest things to endure, and I call it spiritual persecution. Jesus tells us that it is those from our own household where division will come.

Consequently, we cannot live to please other people.  PLEASERS do not know who they are, nor who God is. They are not happy and will never take a stand;  merely a chameleon changing with everyone else’s thoughts and opinions.

Pleasers will never be able to move forward and to claim the promise given for a long, happy and productive life with the 7 pillars of wisdom essential to build LIFE.

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I [the Lord] will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you with My eye upon you. Be not like the horse or the mule, which lack understanding, which must have their mouths held firm with bit and bridle, or else they will not come with you (Psalm 32:8-9).

Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but whoever hates correction is stupid (Prov. 12:1).

Stern discipline awaits anyone who leaves the path; the one who hates correction will die (Proverbs 15:10).


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